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Today, I was fortunate enough to spend time releasing on something that was a problem for me for quite some time:  Teaching kids.

With the help of my release partner, I let go of a lot of the stress about this, I’ve become a lot more relaxed about what to do and a few hours ago, something hit me:  I was talking to a new guy I met today, and as we talked, I recalled a blog of a guy who learned Japanese by memorizing 10,000 phrases.  That’s 13-14 phrases a day for 2 years, and then I suddenly got this interesting idea:  If I just teach them 13 phrases for each class in a fun and interesting way with lots of repetition, I don’t see why they wouldn’t be able to eventually speak with greater fluency provided that they can say the phrases effortlessly/automatically.

I think there’s something to this method though many would probably frown upon the approach.  Basically, I’ve come to conclude that comprehensible input (via listening/reading), repetition, and fun are key elements for easy language learning.  Now the big question is:  How could I implement these ideas into my class tomorrow?  I don’t have the answer(s), but I now have a general direction that I’m heading towards.  Normally, I would have been stressed about all this, but this time, I’m inspired!  Something is different!  I’m feeling tremendously more optimistic about teaching my kids.  Gotta thank my release partner for the assistance

Business

In other interesting news, a new person I met today shared a business idea that he has, and now I’m seriously considering being a business partner.  Initially, I felt resistant towards him since the business idea seemed like it wouldn’t work.  But as we talked, I opened up to him when he mentioned about how serious he was about running a business, as I knew that the idea is not as important as the person running the business. 

Having ‘failed’ in network marketing in the past, I am fully aware of the psychological changes that are necessary for building a business.  Ultimately, the failure has led me to see what it takes to run a successful business.  So, as we talked, he demonstrated that he’s got the business mindset.  Moreover, I told him that if I were to work with him and his friend, the three of us would have to educate ourselves by reading books on wealth, and release quite a bit on business/money related beliefs.  To my surprise, he is very open to all of it.  This, to me, is a very good sign.  It indicates that personal growth is important to him.  I suspect releasing would do wonders for us.

Additionally, I’ve been looking for people just like him.  The thought of doing business with like-minded people has been on my mind quite a while back, so it’s interesting to see where this goes.  I’m going to challenge him and his friend to examine all his thoughts on money and business.  If they are unwilling to change, then I’m sure I don’t want to do business with them.  Perhaps my challenge to them is a little extreme on my part, but why would anyone want to do business with people who will unconsciously sabotage a business?  Hence, the importance of discerning whether this is a worthy venture or not.

And this idea reminds me of…

Marriage and relationships

It’s been over 6 weeks since Mihee and I broke up.  Now I see why it happened.  I compromised some of my own values, which I shouldn’t have done in the first place.  I certainly adapted as best I could, but in the end, I violated my own values and nearly compromised my integrity.  There was no question that she and I had a great relationship, it’s just that we were heading in different directions, and no matter how much I tried to keep things together, we just didn’t match as well as I thought we would.  She would only adapt so much… and that’s perfectly okay.  I am over it, and grateful for all the things I’ve learned from it

This time I will maintain a high standard, and will not compromise.  Just as I wouldn’t want to be a business partner with someone who is unwilling to keep growing and changing, I am not going to date/marry a gorgeous woman who is unwilling to constantly grow and change for the better.  It just won’t happen.  A pretty face alone isn’t good enough.

One thing that I almost compromised was my virginity.  I am quite glad that I maintained it as I’m looking forward to offering it as a gift on my wedding night.  This is very important to me so there is NO compromise.  I’m sure the woman I marry would appreciate knowing that I chose to save it for her.  Many say that the sex isn’t that great the first time, but that doesn’t bother me in the least.  And whether my future wife is or isn’t a virgin matters little to me.  I will accept her either way.  What really matters more is what I do.

I particularly love what the Catholic Church teaches about love and sexuality.  Many people criticize the Church not knowing that it has such a beautiful perspective on sexuality which defends the integrity of women and married life.  When I first heard about the Church’s stance on contraception, I thought it was ridiculous, but once I found out the reasons, I felt so inspired to maintain my virginity and turn Catholic.  The Church has such a positive view on married life that I couldn’t help but be in awe.

I recall listening to a talk where the speaker said that one of the primary purposes of married men is to help their wives enter heaven (and vice versa for women).  Sounds a bit romantic if you ask me, and I think it’s no surprise that romance and the Roman Catholic Church have the word ‘roman’ in common.  Even genuflecting is as Roman(tic) as you can get.  And ever since I started liking girls, I often wanted to be a bit romantic, as I know girls love it. :)

Speaking of girls, there are plenty of attractive girls everywhere, but many of them aren’t exactly the type of girl I’m looking for.  There are several girls that I could probably be happy with, but there is one that I prefer more than any other. 

I’ve been thinking about her nearly everyday for quite some time now.  For a while I thought perhaps this is just an attachment, which it sorta was, but now I do not deny the fact that…

I like someone…

… and I’m happy about it! 

What attracted me to her was the fact that she values something that is extremely important to me.  When she mentioned it, I was completely surprised.  I think I’m either going crazy over this girl, or I’m losing my mind.  I suppose it’s a little bit of both, and I don’t mind either:  My mind often tricks me anyway, and I enjoy daydreaming about her, like thinking of all the unique date places I’d like to take her to if she lived close to me. ;)

To make things more interesting:  Earlier last month, I specifically wrote down several qualities that I was looking for in a woman, and to me, she meets ALL of them so well that I wonder if she read my notebook!  This is certainly really weird because I did virtually nothing to cause this to happen.  I never had to call anyone, be set up, go to a club/bar, or whatever.  I didn’t even spend time releasing on it.  It required no effort at all.  Certainly very odd.

And I get the feeling that she may read this sooner or later, which is why I am purposely avoiding some specifics, like that really important value of mine.  If I revealed it, she would instantly know I am referring to her which kinda defeats the purpose of this part of my blog entry.  I am not sure if she is interested in me, since I tend to have a tough time reading signals, but if she is, then I know she would read all of this! ^_^

And leaving some of these details out allows me to reveal how I feel about her without her knowing for sure that I am talking about her.  It’s like hiding a secret out in the open LOL!  It’s not that I’m afraid of telling her.  It’s so easy to just tell her now, but a little bit of suspense makes this is a lot more fun

In due time, I will tell her directly.  And it’s perfectly okay if she is not interested in me.  I’m just excited about being attracted to a new girl and directly telling her that I am genuinely attracted to her.  Perhaps she will be the first to respond positively! ^_^

Wow… today I stumbled upon so many issues that stirred up a lot of emotional pain.  One after another, it’s like I’m being slapped around by my emotions.  Without going into a lot of details, I’m basically stressed about my ‘problem’ students that I teach, the lack of good teaching materials, the fact that someone insulted my ‘inferior’ Korean, looming money issues, and even random feelings of loneliness.  Not exactly my best day.

It’s strange because it seems the more I release emotional issues, the more I come across other problems (which is actually a good sign, but not exactly fun).  Fortunately, things are changing for the better.  I now have a wonderful release partner who did some incredible work with me recently, so things are shifting.  I am a lot more resilient and focused.  My releasing seems to be better as well, and I even sleep less, which was totally unexpected.

Having built up such momentum, I’ve decided to take my releasing to a higher level.  I am sick of playing the ‘victim’, and all the recent emotional instability has given me more than enough reasons to let go of my issues.  I am determined to go free!

What if negative experiences facilitate an opportunity to positively change?

It’s so easy to look at what’s going wrong in our lives and act as if we are helpless victims, but what if all the terrible things that happen to us are actually agents of inner transformation (as if these unfortunate circumstances are facilitating change)?

This is certainly a very different interpretation of things, but I find that rather than letting circumstances us delude us into being ‘stuck’, it is so much easier to be free by letting go of any wanting feelings attached to the circumstances (like wanting control or approval).  Of course, changing the past simply isn’t possible anyway.

The key is to ‘let go and let God’ as they say, much like the way the Psalmist once said, “The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not want”.  Wanting things is often the problem.  Let go of the want, and life suddenly becomes much easier because it allows us to realize what we truly have.  I know this is easier said than done, but in my experience, this is quite real.

It is what helped me to get over the heartbreak from a breakup in such a short period of time.  If you are struggling to control a specific situation to your liking, here’s a simple question you can use to begin changing:

“Could I let go of wanting to control this situation?”

Ask it over and over, and be sure to say ‘yes’ each time. 

This has worked wonders for me

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Here’s a very fascinating presentation by a neuroscientist:

Earlier today, I spent some time reflecting on what has changed in the past 6 months.  I am quite amazed with the changes in attitude that I now have.  For quite some time, I’ve been releasing on a lot of junk but I wasn’t able to really see how much my life had changed.

But now I see a marked difference:  My whole attitude towards life is significantly more positive.  I used to very doubtful about myself and on my skills, but now I see that I naturally have a lot more confidence.

The key for me was merely about shifting focus.  Rather than focusing on what I don’t want, it’s far more rewarding to focus on what I do want. 

This isn’t about positive thinking.

I still believe that if a person attempts to achieve a goal without clearing emotional clutter,  he or she will likely fail.  However, I often took it to the other extreme by ONLY looking for clutter and clearing it out (which did work), but since I was only focused on negativity, that’s all I kept my attention to.

Now, I use the Release Technique and other methods in a much healthier manner:

1)  Focus on what you want
2)  Feel what it feels like to have the desired outcome here and now
3)  From this positive state, be aware of any resistance to having the goal
4)  Again from this positive state, let go of the resistance (using NLP, EFT or whatever)

As simple as this may sound, it’s remarkably more powerful than just using any of the above methods.  The reason being that if you are in a much more positive state to begin with, and look at the negativity from that context, the negativity is much easier to remove than when you feel ‘stuck’ in it. 

Having used this particular approach for some time now, I feel a LOT more positive overall!

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