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Earlier today, I took a walk in a park nearby which has a little zoo, and I had two interesting experiences.

First, I saw a male donkey trying to mate with a female donkey. Yet the female donkey kept resisting and kicking him away. No matter how aggressive he got, she resisted even further. Then several other female donkeys grouped with her to protect her. It was quite interesting because the male donkey then kept groaning. He looked quite childish and needy.

Yet, it seems this is exactly what a lot of men do to pick up women. It is also what a lot of network marketers do by pitching their business to complete strangers online.

Had the donkey adopted a different attitude, he would have naturally attracted the female donkey to him. The same applies for men attracting women: The man must adopt an attitude where he is demonstrating that he is valuable and that the woman would need him. If at any point, he demonstrates weakness, she would naturally no longer be attracted. Similarly, it is essential that network marketers adopt the attitude of being valuable so that people would naturally like to follow his or her lead, rather than needing to push the prospect into joining his or her business.

If you are looking to attract people into your business, stop pitching your business, start attracting the right people to you by providing real value. Attraction is absolutely key. So how does one do this?

By changing his or her mindset to that of a leader and providing real value as a leader! This naturally causes people to be attracted to your business. Let’s be real: People do not join businesses, they join leaders who run successful businesses! If you want to make a lot of money in network marketing, you must choose to be the leader, so it is critical that you develop the right mindset to naturally attract the people who are looking for a leader.

Now the second interesting experience I had was feeding animals. I bought some cheap animal feed, and it is amazing how the animals literally gravitated towards me. They all showed up instantly when they saw I had food. One particular deer literally came up to me and was eating off of my hand! It was a rather unique experience for me, since deers usually run away from me!

This is very similar to how an attractive business leader is. He simply has and provides what people want: value! At no point did I ever have to convince the animals to come to me. They came automatically, as if I was a magnet literally attracting them to me. If at any point you have to convince people to join you, then clearly, you are making yourself look less and less attractive. It’s like a guy who is ‘begging’ for attention, like the donkey I mentioned earlier.  Why not be the leader that people want to automatically associate with? Thus, if you are looking to be a leader in network marketing, you must increase your value and become that magnetic leader that people are looking for.  So, now I ask you, “Are you willing to become a leader?”

A friend of mine once told me that in response to how I could change my life. Of course, it is not referring to killing people, since I’m talking about my behaviors (and the emotions that trigger them) that must die metaphorically speaking. I took a good look at my life the other day, and it was so clear to me that my ‘priorities’ were constantly shifting. On some days I devote a lot of time to my business, while other days I barely do anything. After stepping back and looking at my own situation, I see what’s going on. Simply being aware of what I have done the past few days is very revealing.

Running a business demands 100% commitment to follow through. On some days it’s so easy to just drop that commitment. Clearly, it shows I’ve got more emotional junk, but I’m not letting it stop me.

I realize my mind is not fully set on running a business. There’s just way too many distractions, which I subconsciously want since I am drawn to them (hence I procrastinate) but it is time to put these things to death.

I plan to create a tentative schedule of what my ideal day looks like (with regards to my business) as well as a plan to handle distractions. From there, I will do whatever it takes to follow that schedule. One big problem I have is that I get so distracted that I often forget what to do, so this schedule will help me stay focused.

Additionally, this means I will have to face the emotional reactions I get by not letting myself procrastinate. I suspect I won’t enjoy, but I feel happier once I see that I am more easily generating leads.

The clock is ticking, and it is ABSOLUTELY critical that I make these changes! I am fed up with living less than what I truly deserve! I refuse to let my circumstances control me! Time to get moving!

Something just hit me a moment ago:  Earlier, I came across some more negative thoughts from some people around me, and I immediately recalled that wealth is a mental game!  One only has to look at the pros and see how positive their feel about their businesses.  Yet, by looking at the other 97% of network marketers who fail, what they tend to have in common is their negative thoughts/emotions which persuade them to quit altogether.  Having helped a wide variety of people clear their issues, it is obvious to me that these thoughts and emotions have their origin deeply rooted in their past.

No matter how many business tools and strategies a person has available, emotions are often the determining factor of their end results.  Thus, I feel quite certain that perhaps 90% of my obstacles are all inside my mind, while the other 10% is simply the know-how of online marketing.

And that 10% is quite easy to deal with.  I am surprised to see how easy it is to actually build a business online, using a proper online marketing system.  I’ve watched some incredible webinars and attended several training calls from my business, and I have already done some of the things that the pros have done but I know that what will truly make me successful is winning this mental game of wealth.  Wealth really does begin inside the mind.

As a friend once said to me, “For things to change, some things must die”, and I know that a lot of the negative emotions I’ve had towards my business must come to an end.  I’m in it to win this game regardless of how long it takes!  Emotional freedom is totally worth it.  I’ve read enough self-help/personal development books and attended plenty of seminars.  It’s time to put all this stuff into practice.  I refuse to settle for anything less!

The temptation to just give up is so real, but I refuse to let someone else determine my worth!  Earlier, I was searching through several different websites of some of the top network marketers.  For a split second, I literally felt ‘weak’ in comparison (and that act of comparing is precisely the problem).  In many ways I feel like I’m a white belt looking at all the black belts out there.

Here are some of the thoughts that were racing through my mind:

“I feel like a newbie compared to them”
“I’m not good at selling”
“I can’t make videos”

Immediately thereafter, I confronted these limiting thoughts in this way:

“I feel so small compared to them“  – EVERY network marketer was once a newbie!  This is your opportunity to follow in their footsteps to become one of them since you are not only surrounded by them, they will guide you to get there!

“I’m not good at selling“ - If you do it right, you shouldn’t be selling anything.  You just have to share your love for your product/service/business with those who are most welcome to it, and the marketing system will bring those people to you provided that you do your part by marketing on the Internet.

“I can’t make videos“ – So you can’t turn on your webcam, act goofy and post it online? ;) Could it be that there are millions of prospects that are eagerly looking for a legitimate way out of the 9-5 grind?  Would you rather tell them one at a time or through a video?  I take it the real problem is not that you can’t make videos, it’s that you’re scared.  So the more important question is, “Will you continue to commit towards being scared, or will you commit towards overcoming your fear?”  Would you rather live in poverty or in prosperity?  Which do you choose?

Interestingly, by doing this, I feel COMPLETELY better about my business.  In fact, doing this simple exercise of refuting my own limiting thoughts has given me all sorts of new ideas for youtube videos :)

Clearly, the fact that I’ve got limiting thoughts tells me that I’ve got some more emotional issues in the way, but I have a better grasp at handling them now.  Network marketing is nothing less than a means towards my spiritual growth, which is ultimately what matters to me most.   :)

For those who actually read this, the above examples that I have demonstrated are called “reframes” or “sleight-of-mouth” patterns from NLP. :)

I have less than  a month before my last pay check comes in.  February is finally here and the pressure is on for me to move forward.

I’ve decided to finally burn some more bridges.  The temptation to ‘fall back’ on a job is a huge trap for me.  Since my last paycheck is slowly approaching, it is time for me to really get moving.  For the past week, I spent most of my time clearing out more of my negativity.  I feel a LOT more comfortable about getting this business moving forward.

I have been re-reading some books on wealth and I am relearning old lessons.  In particular, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker has had a renewed impact on me.

This particular statement stood out for me:  “Rich people are committed to being rich.  Poor people want to be rich.”

Clearly there is a difference.  Wanting presupposes lack, and therefore wanting to be rich does not help me be any richer.  The idea is to commit myself towards being rich:  In other words, cut all the excuses out and move forward.  Deep inside, I believe that I already have wealth.  It just needs to be made manifest in physical form, which means I must commit to bring out that wealth in the form of paper money.

One definition of commit means to ‘pledge oneself’, while another means ‘to send into battle’.  So the question I asked myself was this:  Am I willing to commit myself towards generating real wealth?

Fortunately, I have already made that decision, and it isn’t by going back to a job.  I refuse to let settle for anything less than what I am truly capable of!  The next 27 days will be quite a ride